It seems Nigerians have a PhD in emotional blackmail

So, I am currently caught up in this crazy logjam and this tricycle guy drives recklessly and ends up using his bumper to violently kiss the rear of this very sleek car.

Both the other driver and the tricycle guy immediately jump out to inspect the damage. Turns out his recklessness has resulted in some serious dent on this otherwise pricey car.

Tricycle man immediately goes down on bended knees, with volleys of seemingly rehearsed apologies dropping out of his mouth, his countenance switched to faux contrition mode. The other driver, however, wouldn’t have any of this chicanery, recognising it for what it is. He vehemently tells him to stop grovelling and start discussing how to fix the car dent.

Other motorists and passers-by are now encircling them, with some peering to catch a glimpse of the impact area, while others are already joining the apology chorus with the keke man, appealing to the other man’s conscience.

After a while, the general mood changes, as some of the hitherto begging bystanders are now loudly accusing the offended driver of being too hard-hearted for not listening to the almost hour-long pleas of the small begging crowd.

Sentiments and emotional blackmail are already creeping in, it seems.

Turns out it’s roundly expected that since this offending keke guy has already begged the other one, it automatically behoves of the one offended to forgive and let go, irrespective of the damage done. When it seems he wouldn’t budge, he is automatically made to feel like the aggressor instead of the victim.

I didn’t wait to see how the whole drama played out, but it goes to show how we easily pander to emotional blackmail in this part of the world, ditching rights in favour of sentiments, and making victims look like bullies just because we feel we should deploy emotional guilt-tripping in everything we do.

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